Hello Hive, let’s get another meaningful Monday up and away!
Are you ready to start reclaiming your time? YES!
Are you ready to improve your mental wellbeing? YES!
Want more time to work on your passion project? OF COURSE!
Sounds great, right?
But what if I tell you that to do this you have to learn to say ‘NO!’…… Hmmm!
“Successful people say no to almost everything.” ~ Warren Buffet
The Disease To Please
Why do we struggle so much to say no even when we know that not doing so is detrimental to us in some way? It is a common affliction but especially prevalent amongst women.
Little girls are ‘Sugar and spice and all things nice’ and to be acknowledged as a ‘good girl’ usually has meant sublimating our wants and needs to please and caretake others. People-pleasing is rooted in fear and is focussed on earning approval and love.
Denying your true feelings due to fear of the response is draining and places a massive strain on your time, energy and emotional wellbeing. We want others to like us and accept us; we want to show up for them, meet their expectations, and please them.
However, this can change into an unhealthy lack of boundaries, a blurring of what is reasonable and manageable and contribute to a negative cycle of low self-esteem, loneliness and feelings of failure, So what is the cure?
“It’s only by saying “no” that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” ~ Steve Jobs
R.E.S.P.E.C.T. – Find Out What It Means To Me
Aretha Franklin sang it loud and proud; now, it is your turn! Listen in to these bookmarked play points. Your strategy for saying ‘Yes’ to yourself, embracing your power and respecting and being respected by others starts here!
- The Sky Won’t Fall Down (05:33)
- Say What You Mean And Mean What You Say (05:54)
- The Universe Will Not Punish You For Having Boundaries (05:58)
- Get Clear On Who You Are And What You Want (06:29)
- What Is Your Motivation? (07:13)
- Get Ready For Resistance (07:39)
- Walk Your Talk (08:09)
- You’ve Got The Power (09:05)
- The 10 Things You Need to Say No to Right Now! (09:59)
“Our first and last love is self-love” ~ Christian Nestell Bovee
Start Being Your Own Best Friend
Let today mark a new beginning for you. Give yourself permission to say NO without feeling guilty, mean, or selfish. You are none of those things. Anybody who gets upset and/or expects you to say yes all of the time doesn’t have your best interests at heart. You have a right to say NO without having to explain yourself.
You have the right to have your wishes and time respected. Taking care of your own needs is no less selfish than taking care of others, YOU are a somebody too!
Words Of Wisdom – Quotes To Reflect Upon
‘You will always have a hard time saying no as long as you care more about how you are perceived outweighs how much you care about yourself.’
‘You become useful..but you don’t realise until too late that the exploitative joke is on you.’
‘Before you can master the art of saying ‘No’, you have to clearly define what it is you are saying ‘Yes’ to by saying and acting on ‘No’.’
‘Emotional Political Correctness is Boring AF!’
‘Everything sold cheaply is boring because there is already an abundance of it! Know your worth!’
‘Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive.’
Themes In This Podcast
Giving Too Much
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