Why isn’t your life feeling good right now?


Life can be rough sometimes, and most people, at one time or another, feel crap. This can mean different things for different people.

It might include feeling sad, angry, stressed out, or fed up. It might also be a sense of not feeling like yourself or feeling physically sick.


Why do you feel like down?

Sometimes it is difficult to work out why.
Identifying the factors that are contributing to this feeling might help you to work out how to deal with it. Remember —it’s just a feeling and it’s likely to pass.


Some reasons you might feel down:


You’ve experienced difficult or stressful events.

People around you are experiencing tough times.


Iit’s not uncommon for other people’s unhappiness to influence how you’re feeling. Seeing people you care about feeling sad is hard; it can also be because of the way they’re coping with their emotions, they are challenging to be around.


Not being able to identify the reason for how you are feeling is not uncommon. Factors that might contribute to feeling shitty include:

Psychological factors

Stress —Stress can come from many different sources, like pressures, work or home, colleagues, friends, or even your expectations
Grief —This includes the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship or friendship
Depression and other mental illnesses.

Social factors

Family problems, like parents going through a divorce or fighting, or transitioning to a stepfamily
Issues at work, like bullying or violence
Relationship or friendship problems, like breaking up or fighting with a boyfriend or girlfriend
Moving into a new house
Starting a new job
Living with someone with a mental or physical illness or disease;
Feeling bored or uninspired.

Physical factors

Physical or biological factors might also influence your feelings and reactions as well as how you think about yourself and the world around you. Environmental factors might include:

Not eating well
Not getting enough exercise or sleep
Using drugs or alcohol
Being sick, or fighting off illness, which can make you feel run down and not well
Chronic disease or other medical conditions.

Hormonal changes, especially for women during their menstrual cycles. It may happen a few days before you get your period, and you may not make the connection immediately.

Tips on what to do if you’re feeling down.

When you’re feeling down, you might have the urge to lash out at someone, even if they had nothing to do with your feelings. Here are some ideas that might stop you from blowing up and help you get to a happier place.

Get informed.

Once you figure out what might be causing you to feel down, you can do something about it. On the ReachOut site, you’ll find tonnes of info on different issues, including depression, family and relationships and suggestions on how to manage your feelings and where to get help.

Talk to someone.

Talking to someone you feel comfortable with, like a friend, parent or counsellor, can be a great way of expressing your feelings. These people might also be able to help you identify why you are feeling down and work out strategies for dealing with it.


Sometimes getting some space away from what is making you feel this way or a change of scenery can be helpful. Go for a walk or listening to your favourite music, reading a book, going to the movies, or whatever works for you.

Express your feelings.

I find that writing down my feelings can be a great way of understanding my current emotions in a particular situation. It can also help you come up with alternative solutions to problems.

Express your feelings in a way that won’t cause bodily damage to yourself or another person. Try yelling or crying into a pillow, dancing around the room to loud music or punching a pillow. My favourite is to pull some Beyonce, or Shakira moves on loud music in my kitchen 🙂

Post in the forums.

You can also share your struggle anonymously in the ReachOut forums in a non-judgmental space and get support from others who have been where you are and gotten through it.

Get creative.

Find things to do to distract yourself from feeling low, and that gets you thinking creatively. This includes drawing a picture, writing a poem, or playing a game. Even though you might not feel like it, at first, even a little creativity might be enough to shift your mood.

Take care of yourself.

Feeling low may be your body telling you it needs to take time out, and pushing yourself might make things worse.


Take time out to spoil yourself by doing something that you usually enjoy. Even though you might not feel like it, exercising getting plenty of sleep and eating well help a lot.


Exercise stimulates endorphins, which help you feel better. I f you haven’t done a lot of exercises before, it might be a good idea to start doing something small a couple of times each week, such as a 15-minute walk or cycle.


Avoid alcohol or other drugs (including lots of caffeine or other energy-boosting drinks) in the hopes of feeling better. The feeling temporary and the side effects often make you feel worse.

Written By Cynthia Serra Neves – Why isn’t your life feeling good right now?

Home Business Lifestyle and Coaching with Cynthia Serra Neves, helping you to graduate to a new level of understanding who they are and what they can achieve
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Let Go


In your consciousness, you have a store cupboard where you accumulate everything that you have endured. It has files of childhood, files of your relationship and different experiences. Some contain bad experiences and pain.

The heart may hurt, broken or wounded. You carry it with you. What do do with the past? What has the past done to you? The past is already gone; the situation has passed.

Letting go is the best way to erase the pain that there is in your soul, and that has left furrows on your brain and your heart.



Meditation is the tool I used to heal my heart, but also, physically, I erased the impact that experiences of pain had left on my body.

With deep meditation, not with a relaxation of a few minuted. I have healed my fears, pains and the sorrows I have accumulated in my life.

On letting go of the baggage of the past, the blocks that you have in the present, brought on by previous experiences, will disappear.
Simply let go of it, don’t question it, and don’t re-live that situation in your mind even one more time. Let go of it, it already happened.
That’s it.

When did that happen in 1998, in 2000, yesterday, whenever?
It happened, let it go; don’t cling to it anymore.
It is greed, bitterness, anger, fear, attachment and dependence that make you hold to it.


Let all those accumulated experiences that put you in a victim position, make you drink, take drugs, overeat or starve yourself, be surrounded by toxic people, vanish. Be wise let go of what extinguishes you!


It is crucial to be at peace with your past to fully enjoy your present.
Full stop to the past. Live in the NOW.

free yoursefl and Inspire someone today.



Learn to fail and you will succeed


People that are hungry for success are not playing at being successful.


They don’t even ask that question because even if they fail they’re going to keep going no matter what. So when people ask the question “is it ok to fail”? I worry and wonder if it is because they want a place to hide. I fear that it’s because they want to give themselves job security.

If you want to own your life, the first thing you throw out of the window is job security. You also need to realise that failure is the most valuable learning opportunity that there will ever be. If you show that you learn from your mistakes, it almost doesn’t matter how big the mistake is. What is important is that you earn the reputation of being a person who learns from a mistake.
When I started my online business, I wrote a few bullet points about my belief system and one of them is that failing is fine and does not make you a failure!
If someone tells me don’t do it, you might fail. Regardless of what they say I still decide to go out and fail.
If I fail, I move quickly beyond it and actively learn from my mistakes and look at them as an education.


People that succeed don’t repeat the same mistakes over and over. They don’t set out to fail; they set out to move fast and do something great. They talk about failure only as a reminder that it’s potent, that failure is a lesson, they’re focused on moving forward.


So the real question you should be asking yourself is what reputation do I need to earn?
The reputation you want everyone to know is the one of a person who doesn’t stop when they hit an obstacle they keep going. That person is driven, has got a vision and is going to accomplish it. People would follow someone like that.
Now if you want to be a leader there is no rule manual, there are only people understanding your vision and inspired by you. I just heard an excellent quote recently “If you really want to be a great person in a great relationship, then the person by your side, should feel better about themselves when they walk away.
Think about that for a minute. That’s a leader.


They should feel better for having spent time with you the mere act of being in your presence makes them feel better about them, not about you! Now that’s a reputation I would love to earn for myself. That is what we should be focused on. To get the results, you’re going to have to pick yourself up, to brush yourself off, get the skills you are lacking and led to your failure in the first place. Learn from that mistake figure out how it’s applicable, show the world that it’s not going to stop you or slow you down and that you’re going to keep going. Find the fire in your guts, feed that fire and turn it into something real and you will become unstoppable, why because YOU choose to be.
What the F does it matter whether mistakes are ok or not? You build that reputation, let people see it pouring out of every action, you have a vision and know exactly what you want to accomplish with your life and you’re going F. to do it.
Own the fact that you are not yet the person you need to be in order to accomplish it. Don’t worry about that because you’re hell bent to acquire the skills you need to execute and achieve the things you want.


Think about your reputation, don’t worry about failure. Reflect on who you want to be, focus on things that built lasting happiness. Remember that fire that gets you out of bed and makes you want to be a better version of yourself.


It’s ok because you say it’s ok not because I say it’s ok.


Keep grinding



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