It may be a simple one or an elaborate thousand- piece jigsaw puzzle. Either way, as you work through this jigsaw puzzle of life, chances are that you’re going try to force the parts to fit together in odd ways.
They look like they have the right shape, but as you carry on, you realise that they’re not aligned. So what do you have to do? You start again and reassemble those pieces the proper way.
Look at your life
You might think it’s going smoothly. Your family looks happy. You seem to progress in your job.
Then one day, you’re made redundant, betrayed by the boss you trusted and relied upon to help further your career.
This situation blindsides you. Your perfect world suddenly collapses. Or maybe you’ve planned a six months trip around the world with your fiance — tickets and accommodations booked — and she/he breaks up with you one week before departure.
You beat yourself up about it thinking, “How could I have made such a terrible mistake?”
The answer is this
You are a jigsaw puzzle assembled the wrong way. However, the wrong way is often the right path. It’s a blessing to be “wrong”.
It hurts, but to your advantage it allows you to uncover the truth. This type of information is worth a king’s ransom.
You may have to rearrange a few puzzle pieces, or it may be an entire part. Mistakes are gifts whatever the size of the challenge.
Being wrong is an eye-opener; it uncovers the truth and allows change to come.
Change fuels growth and evolution
Don’t ever be scared to trust someone, build a business or fall madly in love.
There is no right or wrong there is just an opportunity to reassemble the pieces of your puzzle, change their position, put them in a new section and learn how to connect the pieces at precisely the perfect points.
When you do so, you’ll start seeing the big picture.
Assemble YOUR life just as you would a jigsaw puzzle.
Bit by bit. Section by section. You may get impatient at times, or discouraged, or feel as though you’d instead stop.
What you have to remember is that the pieces are all there. When you try different ways to place them where they belong you discover more connections.
Soon you begin to visualise and perceive images as they come together to form the overall vision of your life.
Do you have a goal, a dream?
What does your jigsaw puzzle look like? Are the pieces falling into place, or are you forcing them to fit where they don’t belong? If the image is incomplete, keep trying; the answers are all inside of you.
And at this very moment, an unexpected picture is revealing itself to you one “gift” and one “piece” at a time.
“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything”.
—George Bernard Shaw
Disruption is the force I stand for in every blog I write.
But it’s not enough to only talk about ideas. We have to be part of them. So I’ve turned my life—my mindset, my body and my relationships—into a lab for disruption and innovation.
Disrupting myself and everything I have ever known is my riskiest and scariest move to date.
All my life people have been telling me: You should be a teacher a translator, or you should open a shop. NO. I am not that, and I never will be. Furthermore, I want to be more than any of that; I want to be a voice — the intersection of culture, entrepreneurship and life.
That’s what I want to be, and that’s what I hope I represent.
So welcome entrepreneurs. We may fail. We may succeed.
Our new way of living and thinking may cause a commotion. Guess what? That’s the point. That’s Disruption. I stand alongside your journey toward change because I believe in what you are doing, and want to be a part of it. Because together, we represent the future of our economy and our culture.
Change isn’t easy.
As I learned through redesigning my life, there are hard days, budgetary constraints, disagreements and hurt feelings and times when I wonder why I started this crazy undertaking at all.
When you wish you had just played it safe and were doing something, anything, else.
You stick to it because what you are doing is not just important—it may be your legacy. Also if it were straightforward, everyone would be doing it.
A decade ago entrepreneurship was associated with fraud, trickery. Being an entrepreneur meant not having a job.
Look how things have evolved, and now entrepreneurship is a synonym of vision, risk, character, influence because it is now about living the dream. It is more than being your boss because it is about creating something and change mentalities or the course of history.
Look at the best-performing companies, leaders, personalities, cultures and operations—and, more important, why they perform. For any entrepreneurs, it’s an excellent way to find lessons, takeaways and hints to building a sustainable company—one that will stand for disruption for years to come.
Entrepreneurs aren’t just building businesses; they’re building stronger communities by helping resolve issues.
The heart of my business is my love for women; I am a Feminist who wants to empower women in all areas of their lives and convert their problems and doubts into opportunities.
Finally, if this resonates with you if you have a dream and want to be at service of others and provide value to your communities and the world try our 1-month free trial leading edge educational programme by clicking now on the link below.
In your consciousness, you have a store cupboard where you accumulate everything that you have endured. It has files of childhood, files of your relationship and different experiences. Some contain bad experiences and pain.
The heart may hurt, broken or wounded. You carry it with you. What do do with the past? What has the past done to you? The past is already gone; the situation has passed.
Letting go is the best way to erase the pain that there is in your soul, and that has left furrows on your brain and your heart.
Meditation is the tool I used to heal my heart, but also, physically, I erased the impact that experiences of pain had left on my body.
With deep meditation, not with a relaxation of a few minuted. I have healed my fears, pains and the sorrows I have accumulated in my life.
On letting go of the baggage of the past, the blocks that you have in the present, brought on by previous experiences, will disappear.
Simply let go of it, don’t question it, and don’t re-live that situation in your mind even one more time. Let go of it, it already happened.
When did that happen in 1998, in 2000, yesterday, whenever?
It happened, let it go; don’t cling to it anymore.
It is greed, bitterness, anger, fear, attachment and dependence that make you hold to it.
Let all those accumulated experiences that put you in a victim position, make you drink, take drugs, overeat or starve yourself, be surrounded by toxic people, vanish. Be wise let go of what extinguishes you!
It is crucial to be at peace with your past to fully enjoy your present.
Full stop to the past. Live in the NOW.
Do you every feel crazy busy and so overwhelmed that you can’t get things done because there is a too much going on? Whether it’s information overload, tonnes of projects or technology shooting from every direction?
1- Define specific goals.
The great thing about modern life is you can do so much, and the problem is you can do so much! So it becomes critical to define what you want to do and simplify things down. I suggest that you have three short-term goals (today), three medium term goals (2 to 4 weeks), three long-term goals (6 to 12 months) and 3-lifetime goals. Like this you work towards short-term and long-term goals, it helps you prioritise and forces you to stay focused and lift a huge weight from your shoulders. When we try to do too much, we get overwhelmed and at the end of the day, realise we were busy but still did not accomplish much. People underperform because they fail to prioritise and define specific goals.
2 – Stop screen sucking
There is this common tendency of checking emails, social medias, messages. We start by checking one email and an hour later we are still glued on to the screen, sucking away at it! Screens exert a hypnotic power over our eyeballs, and we lose track of time and of what we’re not doing. Screens have now become interactive and activate the same dopamine circuitry that drives addictions; it captures your attention, you don’t give it away it seduces away from you. So beware of screen sucking, one way to prevent it is to have a set amount of time that you reserve for the digital world, and then turn it off otherwise it’s like a jar sweets on your desk you keep reaching for it. There’s something irresistible about an unopened message that we can’t resist.
People spend a least 20 minutes dealing with unplanned interruptions. It’s a colossal waste, not only we spend time dealing with the disruption but it takes time, and it’s not easy to get back to what we had been doing and reconstitute our focus.
3 – Think about It
Don’t say yes to everything. Most of us tend to be quickly very generous and say sure I’ll do it, and it’s a great asset, but if you’re not careful, it becomes a liability. Before we know it, we’re over-committed, over-stretched over-booked and about to snap.
You can say no directly and if you are not comfortable doing so try to say let me think about it and I will get back to you then you can say I thought about it I don’t have time to do justice to your project. People will appreciate your honesty and approach.
4 – Never worry alone.
The irony of modern life is that we are super connected electronically, but as we’ve done so, we have disconnected interpersonally. There is an awful lot of unacknowledged loneliness out there. People miss that sense of affiliation, of belonging, and company. Keep in mind the people that you can call to worry about money, relationships, work, close friends you can worry about anything but we also need people with expertise.
Three things to do when worrying, don’t do it alone, get your facts because Toxic worry is usually rooted in the wrong information, the lack of information or both. The last step is to make a plan; when we have a plan, we feel more in control, and less vulnerable wich makes us more efficient. Worrying becomes toxic when we are alone; we overthink, dramatise, globalise, get paralysed, anchored down, then you withdraw and disconnect. Sharing the worry with someone is problem-solving and then the next minute you laughing about it.
5- Cultivate your garden and get rid of weeds.
Your garden is the people or projects that are worth it.
They may take a lot of time and effort, may cause you all kinds of pains and agony but in the long run, they are worth it. To have time for your garden, you’ve got to get rid of weeds: people or projects that are not worth it. They may be worth it in their own right but not to you; they don’t pay back the time that you put in. People keep weeds for two reasons guilt or inertia. Withdraw from them so you can prioritise and focus on what matters to you.
We often forget to use the control we have.
You are stronger than you think.
People that are hungry for success are not playing at being successful.
They don’t even ask that question because even if they fail they’re going to keep going no matter what. So when people ask the question “is it ok to fail”? I worry and wonder if it is because they want a place to hide. I fear that it’s because they want to give themselves job security.
If you want to own your life, the first thing you throw out of the window is job security. You also need to realise that failure is the most valuable learning opportunity that there will ever be. If you show that you learn from your mistakes, it almost doesn’t matter how big the mistake is. What is important is that you earn the reputation of being a person who learns from a mistake.
When I started my online business, I wrote a few bullet points about my belief system and one of them is that failing is fine and does not make you a failure!
If someone tells me don’t do it, you might fail. Regardless of what they say I still decide to go out and fail.
If I fail, I move quickly beyond it and actively learn from my mistakes and look at them as an education.
People that succeed don’t repeat the same mistakes over and over. They don’t set out to fail; they set out to move fast and do something great. They talk about failure only as a reminder that it’s potent, that failure is a lesson, they’re focused on moving forward.
So the real question you should be asking yourself is what reputation do I need to earn?
The reputation you want everyone to know is the one of a person who doesn’t stop when they hit an obstacle they keep going. That person is driven, has got a vision and is going to accomplish it. People would follow someone like that.
Now if you want to be a leader there is no rule manual, there are only people understanding your vision and inspired by you. I just heard an excellent quote recently “If you really want to be a great person in a great relationship, then the person by your side, should feel better about themselves when they walk away.
Think about that for a minute. That’s a leader.
They should feel better for having spent time with you the mere act of being in your presence makes them feel better about them, not about you! Now that’s a reputation I would love to earn for myself. That is what we should be focused on. To get the results, you’re going to have to pick yourself up, to brush yourself off, get the skills you are lacking and led to your failure in the first place. Learn from that mistake figure out how it’s applicable, show the world that it’s not going to stop you or slow you down and that you’re going to keep going. Find the fire in your guts, feed that fire and turn it into something real and you will become unstoppable, why because YOU choose to be.
What the F does it matter whether mistakes are ok or not? You build that reputation, let people see it pouring out of every action, you have a vision and know exactly what you want to accomplish with your life and you’re going F. to do it.
Own the fact that you are not yet the person you need to be in order to accomplish it. Don’t worry about that because you’re hell bent to acquire the skills you need to execute and achieve the things you want.
Think about your reputation, don’t worry about failure. Reflect on who you want to be, focus on things that built lasting happiness. Remember that fire that gets you out of bed and makes you want to be a better version of yourself.
It’s ok because you say it’s ok not because I say it’s ok.
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