Not everybody will like you.
A lot of people today live their lives to please others. They do not consider the fact that they need to do what makes them happy.
Therefore they are torn in between being pleasant to everyone at the expense of their happiness.
A big part of my life was spent trying to impress the people around me.
Whether in the workplace, my friendships or my family, I was continually trying to impress hoping to find acceptance. It feels good to be loved by others, but trying to gain approval from everybody is a game that keeps you on your toes 24/7.
Living for the approval of others enslaves you to their opinions.
Living for the approval of others is a draining process and will never harvest eternal fulfilment.
Living for the approval of others is a waste of your precious life.
The truth is that not everybody would like you. That’s just the way life is, and it’s ok.
You could be the most helpful person on earth or the most celebrated saint ever to live, yet some who want to be like you or desire to wallow in evil deeds would not like you.
Hey! Even Jesus and Gandhi had people who did not like them!
I used to be a people pleaser, and I’ve always had a hard time hearing when someone didn’t like me.
Over the last few years, I’ve come to realise how dependent I was on the other’s appreciation, and I knew it was time to make a radical change.
It was time to pump up my self-worth, love myself and drop my comedy mask.
I’ve since learned it’s a good sign if some individuals don’t accept or agree with me.
I’m not suggesting we should be rude, inconsiderate, or disrespectful. This post isn’t about disregarding other people’s feelings.
It’s about releasing your stress about other people’s opinions.
Here is what letting go of that need and learning to be comfortable not being liked by everyone taught me in the past ten years.
# It allows you to be true to who you are.
You do a great disservice to yourself trying to please and adjust your behaviour for the assembly. It’s tiring (and painful) and, more importantly, pointless.
No one will get to know who you are, it will not allow you to connect at a deeper level with people who will leave you feeling sterile, empty and somehow lonely.
# It gives you the power to say no.
People are good at heart. Still, it’s human nature is to push each other’s boundaries. When you decide it’s ok to be being disliked, you also give yourself permission to say no when needed.
Yeses and Nos shape your future, so choose them wisely.
# You’re more comfortable exploring your feelings.
It feels fantastic just to be who you are without acting for someone’s sake? It’s liberating to be able to say, “Hell yeah—I’m terrified” or lonely or weak or struggling regardless of what people will think.
# Your sincerity helps others.
It’s often the least favourite people in our life who strike the deepest chord in us.
Be unpopular when necessary and push people to be their best could be the most loving act you do for them. You may just save someone’s life.
# You can express your thoughts freely.
One of the kindest things you can do for someone else is listening without judging. You deserve that same kindness, but you won’t always get it. People will form opinions as you speak. Talk anyway.
Let your words be kind but fearless.
# It prepares you for greater success.
Pick a favourite Twitter user and look at their @replies. Odds are they field their fair share of harsh comments. The higher you rise, the more attention you’ll receive, both positive and negative.
A willingness to be disliked helps you deal with the added scrutiny.
# It teaches you to offer kindness and compassion without expectations.
It’s not difficult to be compassionate to someone who treats you with respect and kindness. What’s more valuable for your personal development, and to humanity as a whole, is the ability to do what’s right because it’s right—not because you get something in return.
# You can inspire other people.
There is someone I know who has the uncanny ability to keep going even when others try to pull her down. I learn from her every day. To this woman, anyone who doesn’t appreciate her positive, over-the-top personality is a reminder that she is unique and unafraid.
# You can use your time wisely.
If you want to be liked by everyone, odds are you’re spreading yourself way too thin trying to keep them all happy. We need to use our time judiciously to enrich ourselves and others instead of worrying about everyone’s perceptions.
# You can choose to smile anyway.
You could use your energy to make daily inventories of everything wrong—the money you don’t have, the esteem you didn’t earn, the people you disappointed. Or you could commit to being your best, and then just sit back and smile. Life will always be a balancing act. Learn to teeter in serenity
Living a cautious life is criminal! (well, at least to yourself)
Therefore, in all that you do and in your relationships with people, you need to tread wisely.
Not everyone is going to like me. My writing or agree with my beliefs. A lot of people don’t like the way I dress or don’t understand the way I live my life. I’m ok with that.
I’d encourage you to take a step back and look at the bigger picture of life.