Do you every feel crazy busy and so overwhelmed that you can’t get things done because there is a too much going on? Whether it’s information overload, tonnes of projects or technology shooting from every direction?
1- Define specific goals.
The great thing about modern life is you can do so much, and the problem is you can do so much! So it becomes critical to define what you want to do and simplify things down. I suggest that you have three short-term goals (today), three medium term goals (2 to 4 weeks), three long-term goals (6 to 12 months) and 3-lifetime goals. Like this you work towards short-term and long-term goals, it helps you prioritise and forces you to stay focused and lift a huge weight from your shoulders. When we try to do too much, we get overwhelmed and at the end of the day, realise we were busy but still did not accomplish much. People underperform because they fail to prioritise and define specific goals.
2 – Stop screen sucking
There is this common tendency of checking emails, social medias, messages. We start by checking one email and an hour later we are still glued on to the screen, sucking away at it! Screens exert a hypnotic power over our eyeballs, and we lose track of time and of what we’re not doing. Screens have now become interactive and activate the same dopamine circuitry that drives addictions; it captures your attention, you don’t give it away it seduces away from you. So beware of screen sucking, one way to prevent it is to have a set amount of time that you reserve for the digital world, and then turn it off otherwise it’s like a jar sweets on your desk you keep reaching for it. There’s something irresistible about an unopened message that we can’t resist.
People spend a least 20 minutes dealing with unplanned interruptions. It’s a colossal waste, not only we spend time dealing with the disruption but it takes time, and it’s not easy to get back to what we had been doing and reconstitute our focus.
3 – Think about It
Don’t say yes to everything. Most of us tend to be quickly very generous and say sure I’ll do it, and it’s a great asset, but if you’re not careful, it becomes a liability. Before we know it, we’re over-committed, over-stretched over-booked and about to snap.
You can say no directly and if you are not comfortable doing so try to say let me think about it and I will get back to you then you can say I thought about it I don’t have time to do justice to your project. People will appreciate your honesty and approach.
4 – Never worry alone.
The irony of modern life is that we are super connected electronically, but as we’ve done so, we have disconnected interpersonally. There is an awful lot of unacknowledged loneliness out there. People miss that sense of affiliation, of belonging, and company. Keep in mind the people that you can call to worry about money, relationships, work, close friends you can worry about anything but we also need people with expertise.
Three things to do when worrying, don’t do it alone, get your facts because Toxic worry is usually rooted in the wrong information, the lack of information or both. The last step is to make a plan; when we have a plan, we feel more in control, and less vulnerable wich makes us more efficient. Worrying becomes toxic when we are alone; we overthink, dramatise, globalise, get paralysed, anchored down, then you withdraw and disconnect. Sharing the worry with someone is problem-solving and then the next minute you laughing about it.
5- Cultivate your garden and get rid of weeds.
Your garden is the people or projects that are worth it.
They may take a lot of time and effort, may cause you all kinds of pains and agony but in the long run, they are worth it. To have time for your garden, you’ve got to get rid of weeds: people or projects that are not worth it. They may be worth it in their own right but not to you; they don’t pay back the time that you put in. People keep weeds for two reasons guilt or inertia. Withdraw from them so you can prioritise and focus on what matters to you.
We often forget to use the control we have.
You are stronger than you think.