Life can be rough sometimes, and most people, at one time or another, feel crap. This can mean different things for different people.
It might include feeling sad, angry, stressed out, or fed up. It might also be a sense of not feeling like yourself or feeling physically sick.
Why do you feel like down?
Sometimes it is difficult to work out why.
Identifying the factors that are contributing to this feeling might help you to work out how to deal with it. Remember —it’s just a feeling and it’s likely to pass.
Some reasons you might feel down:
You’ve experienced difficult or stressful events.
People around you are experiencing tough times.
Iit’s not uncommon for other people’s unhappiness to influence how you’re feeling. Seeing people you care about feeling sad is hard; it can also be because of the way they’re coping with their emotions, they are challenging to be around.
Not being able to identify the reason for how you are feeling is not uncommon. Factors that might contribute to feeling shitty include:
Stress —Stress can come from many different sources, like pressures, work or home, colleagues, friends, or even your expectations
Grief —This includes the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship or friendship
Depression and other mental illnesses.
Family problems, like parents going through a divorce or fighting, or transitioning to a stepfamily
Issues at work, like bullying or violence
Relationship or friendship problems, like breaking up or fighting with a boyfriend or girlfriend
Moving into a new house
Starting a new job
Living with someone with a mental or physical illness or disease;
Feeling bored or uninspired.
Physical or biological factors might also influence your feelings and reactions as well as how you think about yourself and the world around you. Environmental factors might include:
Not eating well
Not getting enough exercise or sleep
Using drugs or alcohol
Being sick, or fighting off illness, which can make you feel run down and not well
Chronic disease or other medical conditions.
Hormonal changes, especially for women during their menstrual cycles. It may happen a few days before you get your period, and you may not make the connection immediately.
Tips on what to do if you’re feeling down.
When you’re feeling down, you might have the urge to lash out at someone, even if they had nothing to do with your feelings. Here are some ideas that might stop you from blowing up and help you get to a happier place.
Once you figure out what might be causing you to feel down, you can do something about it. On the ReachOut site, you’ll find tonnes of info on different issues, including depression, family and relationships and suggestions on how to manage your feelings and where to get help.
Talk to someone.
Talking to someone you feel comfortable with, like a friend, parent or counsellor, can be a great way of expressing your feelings. These people might also be able to help you identify why you are feeling down and work out strategies for dealing with it.
Sometimes getting some space away from what is making you feel this way or a change of scenery can be helpful. Go for a walk or listening to your favourite music, reading a book, going to the movies, or whatever works for you.
Express your feelings.
I find that writing down my feelings can be a great way of understanding my current emotions in a particular situation. It can also help you come up with alternative solutions to problems.
Express your feelings in a way that won’t cause bodily damage to yourself or another person. Try yelling or crying into a pillow, dancing around the room to loud music or punching a pillow. My favourite is to pull some Beyonce, or Shakira moves on loud music in my kitchen 🙂
Post in the forums.
You can also share your struggle anonymously in the ReachOut forums in a non-judgmental space and get support from others who have been where you are and gotten through it.
Find things to do to distract yourself from feeling low, and that gets you thinking creatively. This includes drawing a picture, writing a poem, or playing a game. Even though you might not feel like it, at first, even a little creativity might be enough to shift your mood.
Take care of yourself.
Feeling low may be your body telling you it needs to take time out, and pushing yourself might make things worse.
Take time out to spoil yourself by doing something that you usually enjoy. Even though you might not feel like it, exercising getting plenty of sleep and eating well help a lot.
Exercise stimulates endorphins, which help you feel better. I f you haven’t done a lot of exercises before, it might be a good idea to start doing something small a couple of times each week, such as a 15-minute walk or cycle.
Avoid alcohol or other drugs (including lots of caffeine or other energy-boosting drinks) in the hopes of feeling better. The feeling temporary and the side effects often make you feel worse.
Written By Cynthia Serra Neves – Why isn’t your life feeling good right now?
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